{"id":14527,"date":"2013-02-09T11:07:52","date_gmt":"2013-02-09T19:07:52","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.fireitupwithcj.com\/dev\/\/new\/\/?p=14527"},"modified":"2015-06-04T17:33:17","modified_gmt":"2015-06-05T00:33:17","slug":"feb-13-how-do-you-find-love","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.fireitupwithcj.com\/dev\/feb-13-how-do-you-find-love\/","title":{"rendered":"Online Dating: How do you find love? (Tyler Young)"},"content":{"rendered":"<p><a href=\"https:\/\/www.fireitupwithcj.com\/dev\/wp-content\/uploads\/2013\/02\/bigstock-Love-Heart-1239011.jpg\"><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"alignleft wp-image-14528 size-thumbnail\" src=\"https:\/\/www.fireitupwithcj.com\/dev\/wp-content\/uploads\/2014\/01\/bigstock-Love-Heart-1239011.jpg\" alt=\"Love Heart\" width=\"110\" height=\"110\" \/><\/a>All of us want to be happy, to be loved, and feel connected to another.\u00a0 But, how do we find love? \u00a0How do we know when we find love that we&#8217;ve found Mr. or Mrs. Right? \u00a0Tyler Young, \u00a0a Seattle based coach, \u00a0offers the inside scoop on dating. \u00a0How do you know when you should move from an online romance to meeting face-to-face? How many dates until you throw in the towel?<\/p>\n<h1><span style=\"color: #008080;\"><strong>Show Summary<\/strong><\/span><\/h1>\n<ul>\n<li><a href=\"http:\/\/fireitupwithcj.mywholelife.net\/RadioShows\/wp-content\/uploads\/2013\/03\/2.13.13-Young-Segment-1.mp3\"><span>Link to Segment 1<\/span><\/a>: <span style=\"text-decoration: underline;\">Online Dating<\/span>&#8211; Tyler Young,\u00a0 a Seattle based coach, offers the inside scoop on online dating.\u00a0How do you know when it&#8217;s time to meet face-face with that intriguing person you&#8217;ve been corresponding with via email?\u00a0How many email exchanges before you meet face-to-face?\u00a0 How do\u00a0the criteria\u00a0for women and men differ when choosing a mate? How can you gauge whether there is chemistry online? How do you showcase your personality through on an online interaction? What happens if you stink at online communications?\u00a0 How do you know if you should go out on a second date if the first date fizzles? How many chances should you give the other person? What is the best way to give the other person another chance?<\/li>\n<li><a href=\"http:\/\/fireitupwithcj.mywholelife.net\/RadioShows\/wp-content\/uploads\/2013\/03\/2.13.13-Young-Segment-2.mp3\"><span>Link to Segment 2<\/span><\/a>: <span style=\"text-decoration: underline;\">Should we fake it before we make it?<\/span> What happens when we aren&#8217;t super confident and entering the dating scene? Tyler offers some examples of how can we &#8220;be ourselves&#8221; and\u00a0still get a date.\u00a0 How can you be authentic, be\u00a0vulnerable,\u00a0and be yourself during a date, even when you are having a hard time (e.g.- lost job, just broke up, etc.)?\u00a0 How can you connect and share with another person in a <em>real<\/em> way?<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<h1><span style=\"color: #008080;\"><strong>About our Guest<\/strong><\/span><\/h1>\n<p><strong>Tyler Young<\/strong><\/p>\n<p>Dating Coach, certified life coach, and owner of ATTRACTOLOGY, Tyler has studied for the past 10 years how to successfully overcome any kind of social anxiety or shyness, and especially that uncomfortable feeling you get when you\u2019re in a room full of strangers and you\u00a0 have no clue what to say.\u00a0 After suffering from it himself growing up, he now thrives on making personal connections, and believes that it is an inherent need as a human being.\u00a0 Having traveled around the world, meeting amazing people along the way, he has developed philosophies that when put into action, will allow anyone to feel confident, witty, charismatic, and the life of the party, if that is what you aspire to be.<\/p>\n<p>&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p>Email:\u00a0 Tyler@attractology.com<\/p>\n<p><a href=\"https:\/\/www.fireitupwithcj.com\/dev\/wp-content\/uploads\/2012\/01\/tyler-young.jpg\"><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"alignnone size-thumbnail wp-image-1991\" src=\"https:\/\/www.fireitupwithcj.com\/dev\/wp-content\/uploads\/2012\/01\/tyler-young-150x150.jpg\" alt=\"tyler young\" width=\"150\" height=\"150\" \/><\/a><\/p>\n<h1><span style=\"color: #008080;\"><strong>Other resources:<\/strong><\/span><\/h1>\n<ul>\n<li><strong>Tyler Young: \u00a0<\/strong>Attract Anyone anywhere <a href=\"https:\/\/www.fireitupwithcj.com\/dev\/feb-2-tyler-young\/ \">https:\/\/www.fireitupwithcj.com\/dev\/2012\/06\/14\/feb-2-tyler-young\/\u00a0<\/a><\/li>\n<li><strong>Spiritual Dating with Kathryn Alic<\/strong>e:\u00a0<a href=\"https:\/\/www.fireitupwithcj.com\/dev\/jun-4-love-will-find-you-kathryn-alice\/\">https:\/\/www.fireitupwithcj.com\/dev\/2012\/06\/06\/jun-4-love-will-find-you-kathryn-alice\/<\/a><\/li>\n<li><strong>Law of Attraction and Dating<\/strong>:<a href=\" https:\/\/www.fireitupwithcj.com\/dev\/feb-17-everything-you-need-to-know-about-findind-a-date-with-neil-ward\/\">\u00a0https:\/\/www.fireitupwithcj.com\/dev\/2011\/02\/18\/feb-17-everything-you-need-to-know-about-findind-a-date-with-neil-ward\/<\/a><\/li>\n<li><strong>Online dating tips from Match.com<\/strong>:\u00a0<a href=\"https:\/\/www.fireitupwithcj.com\/dev\/feb-10-finding-your-true-love-online-with-whitney-casey-relationship-insider-to-match-com\/\">https:\/\/www.fireitupwithcj.com\/dev\/2011\/02\/10\/feb-10-finding-your-true-love-online-with-whitney-casey-relationship-insider-to-match-com\/<\/a><\/li>\n<li><strong>Tips on getting back into dating scene<\/strong>:\u00a0<a href=\"https:\/\/www.fireitupwithcj.com\/dev\/feb-3-dating-made-easy-fast-and-painless-with-katherin-scott-2\/\">https:\/\/www.fireitupwithcj.com\/dev\/2011\/02\/03\/feb-3-dating-made-easy-fast-and-painless-with-katherin-scott-2\/<\/a><\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<p><strong>CJ&#8217;s article on dating:\u00a0<\/strong><\/p>\n<p>When we are single, but looking for a relationship, there are dark moments when it&#8217;s easy to feel that we will never find love.\u00a0 It&#8217;s at these moments that we feel separate from a cruel world where everything seems to be made for two.\u00a0 Around Valentine&#8217;s Day we are haunted by images of smiling, kissing, and adoring couples buying lingerie, jewelry, and chocolates.\u00a0\u00a0<a href=\"http:\/\/www.attractology.com\/about-us\/tyler-young\/\">Tyler Young<\/a>, a Seattle dating coach, joins us on our radio program this Wednesday, February 13, from 1:00-1:30 PT to share ideas on finding love and that special someone.<\/p>\n<p>In the meantime, here are a few things from energy psychology and meditation to help you find love an \u00a0feel the love on Valentine&#8217;s Day.<\/p>\n<ul>\n<li><b>Remove the stressful feelings of separateness and loneliness<\/b>. \u00a0It&#8217;s important to realize that your feelings of separateness and loneliness are just that&#8230; feelings, and something that will pass, like a rainy day.\u00a0 If possible, avoid creating meaning out of these feelings and generating debilitating stories about who you are (unattractive, unworthy, etc.), or how others have wronged you.\n<ul>\n<li>Try a simple tool from energy psychology when your mind and feelings are a bit negative.\u00a0 Place your palm over your forehead (frontal neurovascular points) and place the other palm over the bump at the back of your head (occipital region) and take long deep\u00a0breaths.\u00a0 Bring up all the negative thoughts that are making you feel bad (e.g.,\u00a0<i>I\u2019ll never find anyone; I&#8217;ll always be alone; No one will ever love me<\/i>) and wallow in your thoughts and feelings.\u00a0 Hold for a few minutes, until you feel relief, a sense of relaxation, a shift, or you feel more neutral.<\/li>\n<li>Gaining awareness of your negative emotions can be a good first step to releasing them. Check out these in-depth ex<\/li>\n<li>plorations of your negative emotions, whether they be\u00a0<a href=\"https:\/\/www.fireitupwithcj.com\/dev\/mar-24-what-should-i-do-with-my-anger-irritation-annoyance-with-others\/\">anger<\/a>,\u00a0<a href=\"https:\/\/www.fireitupwithcj.com\/dev\/721-are-you-too-obsessed-about-perfection\/\">jealousy and envy<\/a>, and\u00a0<a href=\"https:\/\/www.fireitupwithcj.com\/dev\/99-frozen-in-fear-and-going-no-where-help-is-on-the-way\/\">fear<\/a>.<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<\/li>\n<li><b>Bring in your faith and love in yourself.\u00a0 \u00a0<\/b>On a spiritual level you are never alone and at any moment you can be in communion with the\u00a0<i>whole<\/i>\u00a0and with your deepest self through meditation. Finding love is a matter of finding your heart. (<i>Check out\u00a0<a href=\"https:\/\/www.fireitupwithcj.com\/dev\/feb-13-i-love-my-heart\/\">Wednesday&#8217;s show from 1:30-2:00 when we talk about the power of our heart<\/a>.<\/i>) \u00a0While we seek to find love outside of ourselves, the most enduring love is that which we can find within ourselves.\u00a0\u00a0 Here are a few meditations to try to get your mind in a more positive place.\u00a0 If you are a yoga fan try this\u00a0<a href=\"https:\/\/www.youtube.com\/watch?v=xcLlcTwZ0Js\">heart meditation<\/a>, or bring in a sense of deep love for yourself by trying this\u00a0<a href=\"https:\/\/www.youtube.com\/watch?v=u3ZO5MiX20k\">meditation<\/a>.\u00a0\u00a0 Either of these meditations can help shift your mindset to a more positive place.\u00a0 Listen to the following in depth discussions on\u00a0<a href=\"https:\/\/www.fireitupwithcj.com\/dev\/nov-24-a-beautilicious-life-of-gratitude\/\">gratitude<\/a>,\u00a0<a href=\"https:\/\/www.fireitupwithcj.com\/dev\/july-12-self-love-ragini\/\">compassion<\/a>,\u00a0<a href=\"https:\/\/www.fireitupwithcj.com\/dev\/jun\/\">faith and courage<\/a>,\u00a0<a href=\"https:\/\/www.fireitupwithcj.com\/dev\/july-5-dont-keep-your-life-on-hold-forgive-forget-and-free-yourself-3\/\">forgiveness<\/a>, and\u00a0<a href=\"https:\/\/www.fireitupwithcj.com\/dev\/july-5-dont-keep-your-life-on-hold-forgive-forget-and-free-yourself-3\/\">self-love<\/a>\u00a0and how you can bring more love into your life.<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<p>There is a theory among energy healers that removing our negative thoughts and bringing in a positive mindset increases the level at which our energy vibrates, which is inherently attractive to others. \u00a0I have found this to be the case for myself. 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