{"id":14650,"date":"2013-03-02T06:47:46","date_gmt":"2013-03-02T14:47:46","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.fireitupwithcj.com\/dev\/\/new\/\/?p=14650"},"modified":"2015-06-08T10:08:36","modified_gmt":"2015-06-08T17:08:36","slug":"balancing-work-and-life","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.fireitupwithcj.com\/dev\/balancing-work-and-life\/","title":{"rendered":"Balancing work and life"},"content":{"rendered":"

\"NYC<\/a>A\u00a0common problem that everyone faces is feeling like their life is spinning out of control. This is usually a result of not living in congruency to what matters most to us.\u00a0 Most of the culprit is the challenge of balancing your work and personal life. I visualize a car heading in a direction and then finding that one of its wheels is losing air.\u00a0 Life coaching is all about airing up all the tires. The quick fix on getting back on track is to do some internal investigation into where the source of the leak lies. There are many tools out there, but the one of the favorites in coaching is the wheel of life. In coaching, the wheel of life is used to divide our life into major areas that when looked at holistically constitute what could make us feel like a whole balanced person.<\/p>\n

Generally, when someone feels out of control, what they are saying is that they feel unbalanced and something important is missing in their life, some section(s) of their wheel is flat and making them spin funny. Let\u2019s take a look at how we could use the wheel of life to diagnose where you are out of balance. Here are 5 simple steps to help you diagnose where you are leaking air out of your time:<\/p>\n

1. Draw your wheel: <\/strong>\u00a0Identify all the key areas in your life that are important to you. Draw a circle (see diagram)\u00a0and create a pie chart with all of your key areas. See the sample below that includes key areas such as personal growth, fun, etc.\u00a0\u00a0 Each person will have their own number of slices and labels on their circle.\u00a0 Mark where you are on a scale to 1-10 on satisfaction with each area.<\/p>\n

\"wheel-of-life\"<\/a>2. Pick one area<\/strong>: Pick the one area of your life where you are really unsatisfied and that if you would make a change it would have the most impact in your life. For example, let\u2019s say that we pick \u201cfamily and friends”.<\/p>\n

3. Personal inquiry:<\/strong> Ask yourself what things you could do to substantially improve the one area you picked. In our current example,\u00a0 we\u2019d ask what one thing could you do that would improve the \u201cfamily\u201d area? Let\u2019s say one of the things you really want is to spend more quality time with her kids.<\/p>\n

4. Developing a plan<\/strong>: The last step is to ask yourself what 1-3 actions could you do that would help you achieve your goal?\u00a0 In our current example, we\u2019d ask what things we could do to create more quality time with her kids. Next, we’d prioritize one out of\u00a0 our list of 3 things and then commit to a date to complete one of the action item. When we’re done with our first action item, we can either move on to the next action item or see how things feel overall. The idea is to keep on moving through your action items until the hole is patched.<\/p>\n

5. Moving to the next area<\/strong>: The nice thing about the wheel is about 90% of the time addressing one issue will end up resolving other areas in our life. It\u2019s why the visual depiction is a wheel since all the pieces are connected.\u00a0 In our current example, you may find that you have less stress at work once you address the quality time with her child. If you still feel out of balance,\u00a0 then go back to Step 2 and repeat the process.<\/p>\n

The wheel is such a great tool since you can use it over and over because the big areas in your life often stay constant. So, it\u2019s conceivable that you could have the same wheel for a whole year or two.\u00a0 I like to think of this tool like the tire patch kit in your car. Keep it around so the next time your wheel loses some air, you can pull it out and make some diagnoses and fixes. Keep any worksheets you\u2019ve written over time together since often the \u201chow to fix\u201d directions in an area are likely to apply in the future.<\/p>\n

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