{"id":14726,"date":"2013-03-05T18:44:40","date_gmt":"2013-03-06T02:44:40","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.fireitupwithcj.com\/dev\/\/new\/\/?p=14726"},"modified":"2015-03-21T17:31:50","modified_gmt":"2015-03-22T00:31:50","slug":"feb-27-how-do-we-love-shepherd-hoodwin","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.fireitupwithcj.com\/dev\/feb-27-how-do-we-love-shepherd-hoodwin\/","title":{"rendered":"How do we love? (Shepherd Hoodwin)"},"content":{"rendered":"

\"Loving\"<\/a>Shepherd Hoodwin’s book \u00a0Loving from your Soul: Creating Powerful Relationships<\/span><\/i> is a must read book for anyone on a spiritual journey who is exploring the many facets of love.\u00a0 Over the last few years, I’ve read many beautiful passages about Divine Love that have floated above me like beautiful clouds, \u00a0untouchable and unreachable in this lifetime. The greatest joy of reading Shepherd Hoodwins’s book is the immediate feeling and\u00a0experience of love\u00a0without having to do anything but read the passages and open my heart.\u00a0\u00a0Your heart will feel a\u00a0sense of lightness, love, and faith and you’ll have a better understanding of “How do we love?”\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0The radio interview allowed my mind to\u00a0translate what I felt in my heart to\u00a0concrete, practical, and actionable steps.<\/span><\/p>\n

Segment 1<\/a>: Love- The best anger management tool<\/strong><\/h2>\n

Anger is my friend (see show on Anger<\/a>).\u00a0 It didn’t start off that way, but over time I have learned to face my anger and learn from it.\u00a0 Shepherd Hoodwin described it perfectly in this interview when he said that everything in life, including learning from your anger, is a spiritual practice. \u00a0Anger is power coming through you, a life force and energy, that arises when you \u00a0have to deal with either a real threat (a robber in your house) or a perceived threat, which Shepherd aptly described as baggage anger. Baggage anger is your own anger that you project to another person due to an unresolved issue in your past.\u00a0 The spiritual practice happens when you can gain distance from your emotional reaction to gauge its appropriateness.\u00a0 My favorite quote from the book is below because to me it nails both self-love and love to others.<\/p>\n

“If you find yourself either attacking others or trying to be loving by repressing your feelings, you have not yet accurately perceived Love… Love is in the middle, where There is not need for repression or inappropriate expression. Love your anger. Love it all” – Shepherd Hoodwin, Loving from Your Soul: Creating Powerful Relationships<\/p><\/blockquote>\n

Segment 2<\/a>: How to Open your heart? <\/strong><\/h2>\n

Shepherd discusses how to open the inner door to your heart and discern whether to open or close the outer doors of your heart.\u00a0 In this segment we talk about what it means to open the \u00a0inner doors of your heart to love, truth, and beauty, and love others unconditionally.\u00a0\u00a0 We’ll discuss how to manage our own feelings of malaise, revenge, betrayal, and anger when in the presence of difficult people.<\/p>\n

“Love comes into your experience primarily through the inner door of your heart.”- Shepherd Hoodwin, Loving from Your Soul: Creating Powerful Relationships<\/p><\/blockquote>\n

Segment 3<\/a>: How do we love<\/strong><\/h2>\n

Everyone has their own way of loving.\u00a0\u00a0 My favorite book on this is 5 Love Languages<\/a>, which suggests that our love style is based on what we learned from our childhood and is based on demonstrating love through affirmation (positive praise), acts of service (e.g.- doing someone’s laundry), gifts, quality time, or physical touch.\u00a0 \u00a0In this segment, Shepherd provides some concrete stories that help you accept the love you get in whatever package it comes in versus only accepting love that is packaged in the way we want it.\u00a0 \u00a0For example, Shephard uses the example of a father that never says “I Love you”, but works hard at his form of love, which is being a good provider.<\/p>\n

Segment 4<\/a>: Taking care of yourself- Self Love<\/strong><\/h2>\n

In this segment we talk about loving others unconditionally as a means of self-love and how to immerse ourselves in positive activities, whether its rest, play, contemplation time as an act of self-love.<\/p>\n

“When you are loving yourself, you are loving others. Love does not differentiate between the love you give yourself and the love you give others. Loving yourself is not self-centered. If you do what you truly love to do, you are in harmony with the whole. Loving yourself has vast ramifications. It is not simply a way to increase your effectiveness and enjoyment; it is your primary means of coming to know the force that activates the universe.” – Shepherd Hoodwin, Loving from Your Soul: Creating Powerful Relationships<\/p><\/blockquote>\n

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