{"id":14821,"date":"2013-03-12T14:46:07","date_gmt":"2013-03-12T21:46:07","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.fireitupwithcj.com\/dev\/\/new\/\/?p=14821"},"modified":"2016-03-16T17:08:22","modified_gmt":"2016-03-17T00:08:22","slug":"how-do-we-love","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.fireitupwithcj.com\/dev\/how-do-we-love\/","title":{"rendered":"How do we Love? (Shepherd Hoodwin)"},"content":{"rendered":"

\"001\"<\/a>Shepherd Hoodwin\u2019s book Loving from your Soul: Creating Powerful Relationships<\/i>\u00a0is a must-read book for anyone on a spiritual journey who is exploring\u00a0the many facets of love. Over the last few years, I\u2019ve read many beautiful passages about Divine Love that have floated above me like beautiful clouds, untouchable and unreachable in this lifetime. The greatest joy of reading Shepherd Hoodwin\u2019s book is the immediate feeling and experience of love\u00a0without having to do anything but read the passages and open my heart. Your heart will feel a sense of lightness, love, and faith and you\u2019ll have a better\u00a0understanding of \u201cHow do we love?\u201d The radio interview allowed my mind to translate what I felt in my heart to concrete, practical, and actionable steps.<\/p>\n

LISTEN TO THE SHOW<\/span><\/a><\/span><\/p>\n

Segment 1:\u00a0Love\u2014The Best Anger Management Tool<\/strong><\/p>\n

Anger is my friend (see show on Anger). It didn\u2019t start off that way, but over time I have learned to face my anger and learn from it. Shepherd Hoodwin\u00a0described it perfectly in this interview when he said that everything in life, including learning from your anger, is a spiritual practice. Anger is power coming\u00a0through you, a life force and energy, that arises when you have to deal with either a real threat (a robber in your house) or a perceived threat, which\u00a0Shepherd aptly described as baggage anger. Baggage anger is your own anger that you project to another person due to an unresolved issue in your\u00a0past. The spiritual practice happens when you can gain distance from your emotional reaction to gauge its appropriateness. My favorite quote from the\u00a0book is below because to me it nails both self-love and love to others.<\/p>\n

\u201cIf you find yourself either attacking others or trying to be loving by repressing your feelings, you have not yet accurately perceived Love. \u2026\u00a0Love is in the middle, where there is not need for repression or inappropriate expression. Love your anger. Love it all\u201d<\/p>\n

\u2014 Shepherd Hoodwin,\u00a0Loving from Your Soul: Creating Powerful Relationships<\/i><\/p>\n

Segment 2:\u00a0How to Open Your Heart<\/strong><\/p>\n

Shepherd discusses how to open the inner door to your heart and discern whether to open or close the outer doors of your heart. In this segment we talk\u00a0about what it means to open the inner doors of your heart to love, truth, and beauty, and love others unconditionally. We\u2019ll discuss how to manage our\u00a0own feelings of malaise, revenge, betrayal, and anger when in the presence of difficult people.<\/p>\n

\u201cLove comes into your experience primarily through the inner door of your heart.\u201d<\/p>\n

\u2014 Shepherd Hoodwin, Loving from Your Soul: Creating\u00a0Powerful Relationships<\/i><\/p>\n

Segment 3:\u00a0How Do We Love?<\/strong><\/p>\n

Everyone has their own way of loving. My favorite book on this is 5 Love Languages<\/i>, which suggests that our love style is based on what we learned from\u00a0our childhood and is based on demonstrating love through affirmation (positive praise), acts of service (e.g.- doing someone\u2019s laundry), gifts, quality time,\u00a0or physical touch. In this segment, Shepherd provides some concrete stories that help you accept the love you get in whatever package it comes in versus\u00a0only accepting love that is packaged in the way we want it. For example, Shepherd uses the example of a father that never says \u201cI Love you\u201d, but works\u00a0hard at his form of love, which is being a good provider.<\/p>\n

Segment 4:\u00a0Taking Care of Yourself\u2014Self-Love<\/strong><\/p>\n

In this segment we talk about loving others unconditionally as a means of self-love and how to immerse ourselves in positive activities, whether its rest,\u00a0play, contemplation time as an act of self-love.<\/p>\n

\u201cWhen you are loving yourself, you are loving others. Love does not differentiate between the love you give yourself and the love you give\u00a0others. Loving yourself is not self-centered. If you do what you truly love to do, you are in harmony with the whole. Loving yourself has vast\u00a0ramifications. It is not simply a way to increase your effectiveness and enjoyment; it is your primary means of coming to know the force that\u00a0activates the universe.\u201d<\/p>\n

\u2014 Shepherd Hoodwin, Loving from Your Soul: Creating Powerful Relationships<\/i><\/p>\n

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