{"id":18019,"date":"2014-07-08T11:48:15","date_gmt":"2014-07-08T18:48:15","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.fireitupwithcj.com\/dev\/\/new\/\/?p=18019"},"modified":"2015-06-08T11:14:35","modified_gmt":"2015-06-08T18:14:35","slug":"79-dealing-anxiety-attack","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.fireitupwithcj.com\/dev\/79-dealing-anxiety-attack\/","title":{"rendered":"Dealing with an anxiety attacks"},"content":{"rendered":"<p><a href=\"https:\/\/www.fireitupwithcj.com\/dev\/79-dealing-anxiety-attack\/\" rel=\"attachment wp-att-18021\"><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"alignleft size-thumbnail wp-image-18021\" src=\"https:\/\/www.fireitupwithcj.com\/dev\/wp-content\/uploads\/2014\/07\/anxiety-attack-150x150.jpg\" alt=\"Depressed young man sitting on the floor and covering his face w\" width=\"150\" height=\"150\" \/><\/a>What are anxiety attacks? Why do panic attacks happen? \u00a0How do we stop\u00a0nervous habits like nail biting? \u00a0Join CJ as she interviews\u00a0<span style=\"color: #000000;\">Friedemann Schaub on his award-winning book, &#8220;<\/span>The Fear and Anxiety Solution: A Breakthrough Process for Healing and Empowerment with your Subconscious Mind&#8221; and get the information you need to start addressing your\u00a0anxiety and fear.<\/p>\n<h1>\u00a0Show Highlights<\/h1>\n<p><iframe loading=\"lazy\" src=\"\/\/www.youtube.com\/embed\/EraO15k9P7s\" width=\"560\" height=\"315\" frameborder=\"0\" allowfullscreen=\"allowfullscreen\"><\/iframe><\/p>\n<p><iframe loading=\"lazy\" src=\"\/\/www.youtube.com\/embed\/Ez0fQg13B6Q\" width=\"560\" height=\"315\" frameborder=\"0\" allowfullscreen=\"allowfullscreen\"><\/iframe><\/p>\n<p><iframe loading=\"lazy\" src=\"https:\/\/www.iheart.com\/widget\/?showId=25229902&amp;episodeId=26954870\" width=\"398\" height=\"224\" frameborder=\"0\"><\/iframe><\/p>\n<h1>Blog Post by our Guest<\/h1>\n<header class=\"entry-header\" style=\"color: #444444;\">\n<h3 class=\"entry-title\"><a title=\"Permalink to The Monkey Mind Matters\" href=\"http:\/\/www.thefearandanxietysolution.com\/the-monkey-mind-matters\/\" rel=\"bookmark\">THE MONKEY MIND MATTERS<\/a>: Source:\u00a0http:\/\/www.thefearandanxietysolution.com\/blog<a style=\"color: #ffffff;\" title=\"Permalink to The Monkey Mind Matters\" href=\"http:\/\/www.thefearandanxietysolution.com\/the-monkey-mind-matters\/\" rel=\"bookmark\">\u00a0MONKEY MIND MATTERS<\/a><\/h3>\n<h3 class=\"entry-title\" style=\"color: #ffffff;\"><a style=\"color: #ffffff;\" title=\"Permalink to The Monkey Mind Matters\" href=\"http:\/\/www.thefearandanxietysolution.com\/the-monkey-mind-matters\/\" rel=\"bookmark\">HE MONKEY MIND MATTERS<\/a><\/h3>\n<\/header>\n<footer class=\"entry-meta\" style=\"font-weight: bold; color: #000000;\"><\/footer>\n<div class=\"entry-content\" style=\"color: #444444;\">\n<p style=\"color: #000000;\">For many years, my mind seemed to have a mind of its own, especially when I worked as a physician in a busy cardiology department. From the moment I woke up, my mind started in, running me through the day\u2019s seemingly-endless \u201cstill-not-done list.\u201d While in the shower and during breakfast, my thoughts jumped randomly from past to future and back, searching for anything that had gone wrong or could go wrong. Throughout the morning, my mind picked up speed, slipping into daunting \u201cwhat-if\u201d realities, until by lunch time I often felt exhausted by the mental and emotional roller coaster ride.<\/p>\n<p style=\"color: #000000;\">If you, too, struggle with a restless, anxious mind, you\u2019ve probably noticed that the chatter can be especially negative and annoying at the most inopportune moments. Maybe just before a presentation, your inner voice weighs in with, \u201cWhat if you freeze up in front of your boss?\u201d or \u201cPeople will see right away you\u2019re a fraud.\u201d To make matters worse, this restless, negative part of our mind appears impervious to reasoning or any efforts to switch it off.<\/p>\n<p style=\"color: #000000;\">Some schools of thought suggest that negative self-talk stems from our ego, or the \u201cmonkey mind,\u201d which is best ignored or fought by saying to ourselves, \u201cStop! I don\u2019t want to listen to you,\u201d or simply, \u201cShut up.\u201d However, in my case, I noticed that the harder I tried to ignore or stop this voice, the more active and out of control it became.<\/p>\n<p style=\"color: #000000;\">Since then, I found it worked best for me and my clients to understand where these insecure, anxious, or critical thoughts originate \u2014 and what they are trying to achieve. Obviously, none of us consciously chooses to deflate or scare ourselves, which means that the source of these thoughts lies in a deeper part of our mind, the subconscious. But is our subconscious mind really just acting out like a wild monkey making our lives difficult, or is there a greater purpose?<\/p>\n<p style=\"color: #000000;\">Before the age of 10, when we\u2019re the most powerless to take care of our basic needs \u2014 such as food, shelter, and perceived danger \u2014 our mind, especially our subconscious, acts as a dry sponge, soaking up all information from the outside that appears relevant to our sense of safety and comfort. Negative messages, criticism or ridicule infiltrate our subconscious and affect us deeply. It doesn\u2019t take major trauma for us to doubt and wonder whether we\u2019re really safe, lovable, or good enough.<\/p>\n<p style=\"color: #000000;\">Consequently, a part of our subconscious mind develops strategies to make sure that we\u2019ll stay free from harm. These protective strategies can range from trying to be invisible, pleasing others, aiming to be perfect, or becoming highly vigilant to avoid potential danger. Let\u2019s consider that the negative and anxious thoughts we\u2019ve been battling with as adults stem from the part of our subconscious that has assumed the job of keeping us safe. Doesn\u2019t it then make sense that these thoughts cause us to expect the worst, so that we are prepared, or keeps us on our toes, so that we aren\u2019t subjected to judgment of others \u2014 or puts us down, before someone else does?<\/p>\n<p style=\"color: #000000;\">So how do you respond to the negative thoughts of this inner protector? Since this subconscious part was most likely developed during childhood, you can picture the source of your negative self-talk as an inner, younger self. If you\u2019re with a frightened child who says \u201cI\u2019m afraid that I\u2019ll fail\u201d or \u201cNobody likes me,\u201d how would you respond? Would you ignore the child, or shout out \u201cShut up?\u201d Or would you buy into his or her anxiety and tell that child, \u201cYes, you\u2019re right, you stink, and the world is a cold and unfriendly place\u201d?<\/p>\n<p style=\"color: #000000;\">None of those options would be appropriate or helpful. What you would do is comfort and reassure, not merely with intellectual reasoning, but with gentle, compassionate kindness from your heart. And as a result, the child would feel heard, understood and, most likely, safe and at ease. The part of your subconscious that creates negative self-talk and mind-racing to keep you safe responds in a very similar way. Instead of ignoring, stifling, or buying into the fearful, restless thoughts, this inner voice needs to be addressed, reassured, and appeased.<\/p>\n<p style=\"color: #000000;\"><strong>The following method is so effective that, with it, most of my clients significantly reduce their negative self-talk within a few weeks.<\/strong><\/p>\n<h3 style=\"color: #ffffff;\"><span style=\"color: #000000;\"><strong>STEP 1:<\/strong><\/span><\/h3>\n<p style=\"color: #000000;\">Write in a notebook or enter into your smartphone a negative thought the moment you notice it.<\/p>\n<h3 style=\"color: #ffffff;\"><span style=\"color: #000000;\"><strong>STEP 2:<\/strong><\/span><\/h3>\n<p style=\"color: #000000;\"><span style=\"color: #000000;\">Take a reality check and ask yourself:<\/span> <span style=\"color: #000000;\">Is this thought true?<\/span><\/p>\n<p style=\"color: #000000;\">Does this thought make me feel good?<\/p>\n<p style=\"color: #000000;\">Does this thought help me to reach my goals?<\/p>\n<p style=\"color: #000000;\">These questions interrupt the spiral of negative thinking before it gets out of control.<\/p>\n<h3 style=\"color: #ffffff;\"><span style=\"color: #000000;\"><strong>STEP 3:<\/strong><\/span><\/h3>\n<p style=\"color: #000000;\">Immediately write down three positive thoughts to counterbalance the negative one. For example: Something bad will happen. You could counterbalance with: Right now I\u2019m OK. Many times before, when I was worried, everything turned out well. I have the strength and abilities to handle anything that comes my way. Or my boss doesn\u2019t like me. Counterbalances could be: I don\u2019t know what my boss is feeling. I\u2019m doing a great job. If I were my boss, I\u2019d be happy to have me as an employee.<\/p>\n<h3 style=\"color: #ffffff;\"><span style=\"color: #000000;\"><strong>STEP 4:<\/strong><\/span><\/h3>\n<p style=\"color: #000000;\">Add positive emotions to your counter-balancing thoughts. For the subconscious mind, words have meaning only if they\u2019re associated with an image, a sensation, or a feeling. The stronger the emotion, the more profound the meaning. So rather than staying in your head, using this exercise as an internal debating club, make sure that you can actually feel and stand behind the positive counterbalancing statements. I know that feeling positive, kind, and compassionate toward yourself can be a huge challenge, especially when you\u2019re struggling with anxiety, low self-esteem, and self-directed anger. But remember that the main source of your repetitive negative thoughts is a younger part of your subconscious mind, which is just playing old \u201ctapes\u201d and repeating outdated protective programs.<\/p>\n<p style=\"color: #000000;\">Isn\u2019t it easier to speak in a calm, reassuring, and comforting way when you visualize addressing a child? By adding kindness and compassion to your counterbalancing positive thoughts, you take on the proactive role of the one who addresses and reassures this inner child. Assuming this role automatically shifts your consciousness and attitude from \u201cI\u2019m powerless\u201d to \u201cI\u2019m taking charge.\u201d<\/p>\n<p style=\"color: #000000;\">When you come to understand that your monkey mind matters and address its needs, you\u2019ll no longer feel that you\u2019re the victim of your own thoughts. Instead, you\u2019ll find it much easier to steer those thoughts in the direction you want them to go.<\/p>\n<\/div>\n<h1>About Our Guest<\/h1>\n<p style=\"color: #000000;\"><strong><a href=\"https:\/\/www.fireitupwithcj.com\/dev\/79-dealing-anxiety-attack\/\" rel=\"attachment wp-att-18020\"><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"alignleft size-thumbnail wp-image-18020\" src=\"https:\/\/www.fireitupwithcj.com\/dev\/wp-content\/uploads\/2014\/07\/schaub_2-150x150.jpg\" alt=\"schaub_2\" width=\"150\" height=\"150\" \/><\/a>Friedemann Schaub MD, PhD\u00a0<\/strong>received his medical degree from the University of Munich and pursued a career in cardiology at the Munich University Hospital before moving to Seattle where he received a doctorate in molecular-biology from the University of Washington. His research has been published and featured in national and international medical and science journals.<\/p>\n<p style=\"color: #000000;\">During more than twenty-years in the medical field, Dr. Schaub became increasingly fascinated by the powerful influence of our thoughts, emotions, and beliefs on health and disease. He recognized that our abundant self-healing abilities can only function effectively when mind, body, and spirit are in alignment, and that the mind-body-spirit connection \u2013 in particular the subconscious mind \u2013 holds the keys to accelerated healing, well-being, and success.<\/p>\n<p style=\"color: #000000;\">Realizing this enormous potential, he extensively studied mind-activating modalities and became a certified master practitioner in Neuro-Linguistic Programming (NLP) and Time Line Therapy TM. He is also an American Board of Hypnotherapy (ABH)\u2013certified trainer of clinical hypnotherapy.<\/p>\n<p style=\"color: #000000;\">Based on this wealth of knowledge and experience, Dr. Schaub created a personal breakthrough and empowerment program specifically designed to eliminate emotional and mental blocks and limitations that prevent us from fully activating our potential to heal, change and succeed. He has helped thousands of people all over the world overcome fear and anxiety to lead confident, authentic and successful lives.<\/p>\n<p style=\"color: #000000;\">Dr. Schaub lives with his wife,\u00a0<strong><a style=\"color: #4f5761;\" title=\"Divine Transmissions\" href=\"http:\/\/divinetransmissions.com\/\" target=\"_blank\">Danielle Rama Hoffman\u00a0<\/a><\/strong>, author of \u201cThe Temples of Light,\u201d \u201cThe Council of Light,\u201d and his 2 cats Kiska and Kara in Seattle, Washington and in Apt, France.<\/p>\n<p>\u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 #<span style=\"color: #222222;\">panic attack symptoms,\u00a0anxiety symptoms,\u00a0symptoms of anxiety, anxiety attack<\/span><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>What are anxiety attacks? 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