{"id":22862,"date":"2016-05-12T15:09:59","date_gmt":"2016-05-12T22:09:59","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.fireitupwithcj.com\/dev\/\/?p=22862"},"modified":"2016-06-08T17:08:08","modified_gmt":"2016-06-09T00:08:08","slug":"time-management-with-love-and-logic","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.fireitupwithcj.com\/dev\/time-management-with-love-and-logic\/","title":{"rendered":"Time Management with Love and Logic"},"content":{"rendered":"<p>Get some easy and fun heart-inspired time management tips from productivity coach <a href=\"https:\/\/tararobinson.com\/\">Tara Rodden Robinson<\/a>, Ph.D on how to do what you love every day.\u00a0 Tara shares tips from her recent book \u00a0\u201c<a href=\"https:\/\/www.etsy.com\/listing\/277346006\/sexy-soul-full-by-tara-rodden-robinson?ref=shop_home_active_1\">Sexy + Soul-full: A Woman&#8217;s Guide to Productivity<\/a>\u201d<\/p>\n<p><iframe loading=\"lazy\" width=\"398\" height=\"224\" src=\"https:\/\/www.iheart.com\/widget\/?showId=25229902&#038;episodeId=27518787\" frameborder=\"0\"><\/iframe><\/p>\n<h1>Get at the Heart of Time Management<\/h1>\n<p>Source: Robinson, T. R. (2016). <i>Sexy Soul-full: A Woman&#8217;s Guide to Productivity<\/i>. StMichaelspress.com.<\/p>\n<h2>Discovering your passion and what makes you happy<\/h2>\n<p>Unlike traditional productivity programs, Tara\u2019s approach to productivity is to first and foremost to make time for what you love, unapologetically, and joyfully. The first part of her book , <a href=\"https:\/\/www.etsy.com\/listing\/277346006\/sexy-soul-full-by-tara-rodden-robinson?ref=shop_home_active_1\">Sexy + Soul-full: A Woman&#8217;s Guide to Productivity<\/a>\u201d helps women get in touch with what they love. Tara offers the following 3 steps:<\/p>\n<ol>\n<li>Cultivate an Awareness of You Soul-full Yearnings<\/li>\n<li>Follow Where Your Yearnings Lead you.<\/li>\n<li>Keep going<\/li>\n<\/ol>\n<p>While this path towards moving toward your passions may bring doubt and fear, Tara recommends instead of running away from your fear to lean into them.<\/p>\n<blockquote><p>\u201c Facing fear has taught me to be gentle with myself.\u00a0 Gentle as in: Learning to unclench, relax, and allow.\u00a0 This is different from forcing, pushing, and making myself do things I\u2019m afraid to do or not ready to try yet.\u00a0 We\u2019re called to strike a balance between gentle with being gentle with yourselves and still remaining loyal to our journey.\u201d P58<\/p><\/blockquote>\n<p>There are times in exploring your passions may lead you to what feels like a dead end, Tara suggest that we embrace these \u201cfallow times\u201d and surrender to what is.<\/p>\n<blockquote><p>\u201cYour journey can be as much about acknowledging and embracing inaction and ease as it is about throwing yourself into joyful effort and action.\u00a0 The opposite of ease is struggle. Struggle is action but inefficient action- a futile exertion that gets you nowhere.\u00a0 \u201c p60<\/p>\n<p>\u201cBeing still, listening to your own soul\u2019s voice, is never a waste of time. Practice courage in surrender.\u00a0 Your loves are seeking you out just as strongly as you are seeking them. Sometimes it is you that must be found, rather than the other way round.\u201dp61<\/p><\/blockquote>\n<p>Tara describes her own surrendering as letting go of worry, striving, and figuring solutions out.\u00a0 She shares her own experience of letting go and that after she surrendered that all sorts of solutions and opportunities started to come to her.<\/p>\n<h1>Time Management: How to make time for the things we love<\/h1>\n<h2>Examining our Myths about Time<\/h2>\n<p><strong>Myth 1: I will have more time later. <\/strong><\/p>\n<p>We hold this belief that we will have time later to do the things that matter to us, like our loves, family and our own personal growth.\u00a0 The outcome is that we delay our happiness to a later date.<\/p>\n<p><strong>Myth 2: Time is outside my control<\/strong><\/p>\n<p>Each of us has a perception of time that we are unconscious of, but that is anchored in our language. Have you ever said \u201cI don\u2019t have time\u201d, \u201cI am short on time\u201d, and \u201cI don\u2019t have enough time\u201d?\u00a0 If so, you may be operating from a time scarcity model.<\/p>\n<blockquote><p>\u201cNot only does your brain\u2019s wiring play a central role in your experience of time, your time truly is what you think it is and it behaves how you say it does.\u00a0 However it is that you imagine your time to be-scarce or abundant, speeding or dragging, standing still or running out \u2013 you create your own experience about how you think about your time and what you s ay aloud about it.&#8221;: p75<\/p><\/blockquote>\n<p>For more about the power of your thoughts check out: <a href=\"https:\/\/www.fireitupwithcj.com\/dev\/total-transformation-joe-dispenza\/\">https:\/\/www.fireitupwithcj.com\/dev\/total-transformation-joe-dispenza\/<\/a><\/p>\n<p><strong>Myth 3: My time is precious<\/strong><\/p>\n<p>In \u00a0<a href=\"https:\/\/www.etsy.com\/listing\/277346006\/sexy-soul-full-by-tara-rodden-robinson?ref=shop_home_active_1\">Sexy + Soul-full: A Woman&#8217;s Guide to Productivity<\/a>\u201d \u00a0Tara\u2019s shares research from psychologist who study human behavior.\u00a0 This research uncovers \u00a0a disturbing problem with the folks who value their own time too highly: They re often extremely impatient.<\/p>\n<blockquote><p>&#8220;Ultimately, the myth of time as precious is based in a comparison mindset.\u00a0 Comparison looks for less than versus more than. In the case of time, we tend to make these comparisons along the lines of \u201cMy time is precious\u201d with the unspoken \u201cand yours is not\u201d.\u00a0 These kinds of comparisons can lead us to not only overvalue our own time or to devalue other people\u2019s time, but to devalue the people themselves.\u201d P79<\/p>\n<p>\u201cWhen thinking of time as a personal possession, we become eager to hoard, to defend and to grasp.\u00a0 We can begin to overvalue our time so much that we undervalue the time of others.\u00a0 Worse, by getting deeply attached to our own precision time, we can start to feel resentful of anything or anyone that intrudes or threatens to take some of our precious time away or that seems to interfere with our expectations of what an experience ought to be like for us.\u00a0 Waiting in line, a slow care in the fast lane, or being stuck on hold, all grate on our nerves and invite irritation and impatience.\u00a0 Interruptions and crises become our enemies instead of holding possibilities for unexpected opportunities\u201d. p135<\/p><\/blockquote>\n<p>The antidote to this myth is being a place of equanimity where all moments are equally precious.\u00a0 It\u2019s about letting go of your preferences, priorities, or attachment to what you want to be happening and being present and opening up to \u201cwhat is\u201d happening in your life.\u00a0 Tara suggests training yourself to let go in simple ways, such as going to an ice-cream store and just pointing to anything versus your preferences is one way to train yourself of letting go of your preferences..<\/p>\n<p>Another way that Tara suggests for conquering unknown events that occur during you day is to cultivate gratitude.<\/p>\n<blockquote><p>\u201cThe power of gratitude is found when you welcome everything- not just what you\u2019ve expected, what you wanted, or what you wished for, but everything- with the same warmth of appreciation.\u00a0 The natural partner of gratitude is generosity.\u00a0 A generous heart is one that naturally shares whatever it has.\u00a0 A grateful heart, likewise, is quick, to offer thing no matter what the circumstances or how events are turning out.\u201d P146.<\/p><\/blockquote>\n<h2>What are the root causes of overdoing?<\/h2>\n<p>The root cause of all these myths relate to a fundamental belief of scarcity.\u00a0 Tara shares her insights about scarcity:<\/p>\n<blockquote><p>\u201cScarcity draws us out of the scared present-moment and focuses attention on an imagined and potentially disastrous future.\u00a0 Instead of encouraging trust and faith, scarcity counsels doubt and distrust. Distrust naturally leads to disconnection, which sets the stage for alienation, isolation, and conflict.\u201d P81<\/p><\/blockquote>\n<p>Another reason we get fixated on productivity time, is due to what Tara calls our \u201chustle for worthiness.\u201d<\/p>\n<blockquote><p>\u201cScarcity tells you that you are not enough now, and you must be more to have some chance of being enough in the future.\u00a0 Being more usually gets translated into doing more.\u00a0 Because you are not enough, you can never do enough to become enough. \u00a0This leads to an ongoing tap dance of over commitment, workaholism, and a super-size ambition that is never satiated\u2026 because you are never enough,\u201d p 82<\/p><\/blockquote>\n<h2>Time management tips: How to do enough?<\/h2>\n<h3>Important and not urgent<\/h3>\n<p>There are always long-term projects that are important, but there is no urgency to complete these tasks.\u00a0 Tara suggests conquering these long-term projects using what she calls \u201cBrief daily sessions(BDS)\u201d and offer the following tactics:<\/p>\n<ul>\n<li>Set your time for 3-5 minutes and work on your important work until the alarm goes off.<\/li>\n<li>If motivated keep going, if not wrap up.<\/li>\n<li>When you wrap up make notes on \u201cThe last thing I did was\u2026 The next thing I\u2019ll do is..\u201d<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<p>In order to effectively do your BDS, you may need to get in the right mindset.\u00a0 If you feel unsettled at the start of your project, Tara suggests taking a short walk, writing a list of things that are still bothering you, or meditating.<\/p>\n<h3>Shrinking work to fit<\/h3>\n<p>One of the main reasons we find ourselves pressed for time is that we become perfectionist with our work and overdo.\u00a0 Tara suggests placing time limits on the work you do by following these tips:<\/p>\n<ul>\n<li>Decide how time to allot to the task at hand.<\/li>\n<li>Identify what \u201cgood enough\u201d is and what you need to do to get there.<\/li>\n<li>Tackle your work with gusto.<\/li>\n<li>Try to work in short intense, focused bouts.<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<h2>Change your attitude about Time<\/h2>\n<p>As Tara shares above, we have disempowering language about time.\u00a0 She offers the following tips on how to shift our language and by extension our perceptions of time:<\/p>\n<ul>\n<li>Make time expand by being present to ever moment. She suggests a simple exercise of just noticing your breath or taking a quick break by noticing your surroundings.<\/li>\n<li>Change your language about time. Look at the habitual phrases you say that reflect a sense of time scarcity and change your language.\n<ol>\n<li>\u201cI \u2018m running out of time\u201d might become \u201cI know how to work in the time I have available\u201d.<\/li>\n<li>\u201cI don\u2019t have time to finish this\u201d might turn into \u201cI can shrink this work to fit the time available\u201d<\/li>\n<li>\u201cTime is going by too quickly\u201d becomes \u201c I know how to slow time\u2019s pace by attending to details\u201d p119<\/li>\n<\/ol>\n<\/li>\n<li>Block off times in your calendar to make time to do things you love (paint, nature walk, yoga, gardening).<\/li>\n<li>Enhance your freedom by honoring stillness. Practice doing a fast from social media or other distractions and allow stillness to emerge.<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<blockquote>\n<p style=\"padding-left: 30px;\">\u201cBusyness is a way of avoiding stillness, which is the ultimate expression of ease.\u00a0 Being immersed in busyness or being addicted to digital devices not only derails stillness but these distractions also have a very weird way of making time pass unusually quickly.\u2019 P125<\/p>\n<\/blockquote>\n<h2>Tara Rodden Robinson, Ph.D- Time Management Coach, author, and artist<\/h2>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"alignnone size-thumbnail wp-image-22863\" src=\"https:\/\/www.fireitupwithcj.com\/dev\/wp-content\/uploads\/2016\/05\/tara-compressed-150x150.jpg\" alt=\"Tara Rodden Robinson\" width=\"150\" height=\"150\" \/>Tara Rodden Robinson, Ph.D., is a coach, author, and artist. She founded her coaching practice in 2006 when she left a career in academia. Before becoming a coach, she enjoyed a lively adventure as a biologist beginning in the Costa Rican rainforest. While pursuing her Ph.D. at the University of Illinois, she met and married her soul mate, W. Douglas Robinson. Tara has published numerous papers on tropical birds and is the author of <em>Genetics for Dummies<\/em> (Wiley), now in its second edition. Before becoming a biologist, Tara earned her bachelor\u2019s degree in nursing and she practiced critical care and surgical nursing for five years.<\/p>\n<p>Tara makes her home in Corvallis, Oregon, where she lives in a purple house surrounded by art. She finds joy in making mosaics, painting in mixed-media, binding books, practicing yoga, or hiking the forest trails with her husband and their dog, Rowdy.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>Get some easy and fun heart-inspired time management tips from productivity coach Tara Rodden Robinson, Ph.D on how to do what you love every day.\u00a0 Tara shares tips from her recent book \u00a0\u201cSexy + Soul-full: A Woman&#8217;s Guide to Productivity\u201d Get at the Heart of Time Management Source: Robinson, T. R. (2016). 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