{"id":23130,"date":"2016-12-03T17:02:20","date_gmt":"2016-12-04T01:02:20","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.fireitupwithcj.com\/dev\/\/?p=23130"},"modified":"2018-10-16T19:03:00","modified_gmt":"2018-10-17T02:03:00","slug":"what-is-my-strength","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.fireitupwithcj.com\/dev\/what-is-my-strength\/","title":{"rendered":"What are my Strengths?"},"content":{"rendered":"<p>How can a strengths-based approach to life can create more meaning and fulfillment? \u00a0What is my strength? CJ interviews Fatima Doman on her book \u201cAuthentic Strengths\u201d. We\u2019ll talk about how to find your strengths and use them to get motivated and manage others.\u00a0 Plus, we\u2019ll talk about how you can add more oomph in goal setting by creating STRONG goals.<\/p>\n<p><iframe loading=\"lazy\" src=\"https:\/\/www.iheart.com\/widget\/?showId=25229902&amp;episodeId=27854195\" width=\"398\" height=\"224\" frameborder=\"0\"><\/iframe><\/p>\n<p><iframe loading=\"lazy\" title=\"What are your Via Character Strengths and Virtues?\" width=\"500\" height=\"281\" src=\"https:\/\/www.youtube.com\/embed\/8lZqWr_JUZs?feature=oembed\" frameborder=\"0\" allow=\"accelerometer; autoplay; clipboard-write; encrypted-media; gyroscope; picture-in-picture; web-share\" referrerpolicy=\"strict-origin-when-cross-origin\" allowfullscreen><\/iframe><\/p>\n<p>&nbsp;<\/p>\n<h1>What is My\u00a0Strength?<\/h1>\n<p>Each person is as unique as their fingerprint.\u00a0 While at times, we do not recognize or see our uniqueness they are ever present.\u00a0 Luckily, there are easy ways for us to get a glimpse of what makes us special.\u00a0 Personality and strength assessments are the simplest form of self-discovery and introspection.\u00a0 In a matter of 5-20 minutes, you can discover your strengths relative to others.\u00a0 Sadly, our curiosity with these assessments are short-lived after we take an assessment.\u00a0 Most assessments get filed in a drawer never to see the light of day, or get posted as a novelty item on social media.<\/p>\n<p>The alternative to this fast food approach to self-discovery is to use these assessments as a launching point for living life differently. \u00a0While that comment may seem far-fetched, this is exactly what great coaches like Fatima Doman, the author of \u201cAuthentic Strengths\u201d can do with the results of this test, which we\u2019ll describe later in the post.\u00a0 But first, which strength test should you take and what is a strength?<\/p>\n<h2>Define Strength: What is a strength?<\/h2>\n<p>Let\u2019s start with the basics. What is a strength? There are several definitions.\u00a0 The most popular strength assessment is Gallup\u2019s Strengths Finder.\u00a0 Here\u2019s how they define a strength:<\/p>\n<blockquote><p>\u201cA strength is the ability to consistently provide near-perfect performance in a specific activity. The key to building a strength is to identify your dominant talents, then complement them by acquiring knowledge and skills\u201d Source: <a href=\"http:\/\/strengths.gallup.com\/help\/general\/125540\/strength.aspx\">http:\/\/strengths.gallup.com\/help\/general\/125540\/strength.aspx<\/a><\/p><\/blockquote>\n<p>Often a strengths definition get confused with skills and knowledge.\u00a0 Gallup clarifies in their book \u201cNow, Discover Your Strengths\u201d how it measures strengths and how they differ from skills and knowledge in the terminology below.<\/p>\n<blockquote><p><strong>Talents<\/strong> are your naturally recurring patterns of thought, feeling, or behavior.\u00a0 Your various themes of talents are what StrengthsFinder Profile actually measure. \u00a0Talent is any recurring pattern that can be productively applied. Your talents, your strongest synaptic connections, are the most important raw material for strength building. Talents are your spontaneous reactions, yearnings, rapid learning and patterns that bring you satisfaction.<\/p>\n<p><strong>Knowledge<\/strong> consists of the facts and lessons learned.<\/p>\n<p><strong>Skills<\/strong> are the steps of an activity. Skills bring structure to experiential knowledge. For example, if you bake a caked there are a set of skills from measuring ingredients, mixing, and then cooking the cake. Skills enable you to avoid trial and error and to incorporate your best discoveries from your past experience.<\/p><\/blockquote>\n<p>Gallup illustrates these terms through an example of a person (e.g.-Nancy) who may have a theme of talent to confront others (which they refer to as the theme Command).\u00a0 Nancy could use this talent to perform well in sales and sell successfully, which is a strength. \u00a0In order to build her talent into a strength, Nancy would have to perfected this innate talent with product knowledge and skills to fully develop a strength of selling. The main difference with Gallup is that it is focused on performance at work or the \u201cdoing\u201d part in an activity.<\/p>\n<p>Like many other strength advocates, Gallup believes that we can live a better life when we identify our most powerful talents, and hone them with skills and knowledge. The research for Gallup\u2019s StrengthFinder assessment boils strengths into 34 themes of talents, described here: <a href=\"http:\/\/www.strengthstest.com\/strengths-finder-themes\">http:\/\/www.strengthstest.com\/strengths-finder-themes<\/a>. To take StrengthsFinder go to: https:\/\/www.gallupstrengthscenter.com\/Purchase\/en-US\/Product<\/p>\n<h2>What are Character Strengths (and virtures)?<\/h2>\n<p>A slightly different approach to strengths is through the VIA Institute. The founder of VIA Institute of Character, Dr. Neal H. Mayerson describes <em>talents<\/em> as what we are good at doing, while character strengths define <em>what we care about doing<\/em>. Fatima Doman, author of \u201cAuthentic Strengths\u201d describes character strengths as aspects that define what\u2019s best in you and that character strengths give your energy. VIA Institute of Character identifies twenty- four character strengths that every person possesses in varying degrees and combinations.\u00a0 You can see the full list of 24 character strengths here: <a href=\"http:\/\/www.viacharacter.org\/www\/Character-Strengths\/VIA-Classification\">http:\/\/www.viacharacter.org\/www\/Character-Strengths\/VIA-Classification<\/a>).<\/p>\n<h2>Other Strength Assessments<\/h2>\n<p>My favorite assessment is Dependable Strengths (http:\/\/dependablestrengths.org\/).\u00a0 Dependable Strengths are identified based on a subjective analysis of good experiences, versus an online test which is done objectively.\u00a0 A good experience is defined as an experience where <em>you feel<\/em> that you did well, <em>you enjoyed doing<\/em> the experience, and that <em>you feel proud<\/em> of the experience.\u00a0 A good experience involves actions you take to create something.\u00a0 For example, you may have gone to a baseball game with your dad.\u00a0 It would only be a good experience if you did things (buy tickets, plan a special day, organized your family to join) to create that experience.\u00a0 From these good experiences, you come up with a list of \u201cdependable strengths\u201d.\u00a0 These are talents that you use when you were engaged in a good experience. Find out more here: <a href=\"http:\/\/dependablestrengths.org\/\">http:\/\/dependablestrengths.org\/<\/a>. \u00a0Here is an example of what dependable strengths look like: <a href=\"https:\/\/www.moaa.org\/uploadedFiles\/MOAA_Main\/Main_Menu\/User_Group\/Spouse_and_Family\/Military_Spouse_Symposium_and_Career_Fair_2012\/DependableStrengthsExplorationChart.pdf\">https:\/\/www.moaa.org\/uploadedFiles\/MOAA_Main\/Main_Menu\/User_Group\/Spouse_and_Family\/Military_Spouse_Symposium_and_Career_Fair_2012\/DependableStrengthsExplorationChart.pdf<\/a>.\u00a0 The downside with this approach is it takes longer than the five to fifteen minutes and it doesn\u2019t come with a printed report. The upside is that because they map to real subjective experience you have a better touchpoint to using those experiences in your real life.<\/p>\n<h2>Which assessment is better?<\/h2>\n<p>Based on my own experience as a life coach, any type of assessment is valuable. \u00a0It\u2019s what you do with the information that is more critical. \u00a0Gallup\u2019s assessment helped me get an objective sense of my strengths relative to the general population when at work.\u00a0 I really liked the VIA Institute as it feels more qualitative and not only what I was doing, but who I was being as a person (my character). \u00a0\u00a0As a result, VIA strengths felt more inspirational whereas Gallup\u2018s list felt a bit flatter (more impersonal). \u00a0The Dependable Strengths were most memorable because I was deeply involved in the process.\u00a0 Again, any of these assessments provide a good starting point.\u00a0 The real value comes when you invest in living your life in alignment with these strengths.<\/p>\n<p>You can check out my results from these assessments. As a coach, I\u2019ve done a bunch of self-exploration and can say that all three of these results were pretty accurate descriptors of my strengths.\u00a0 As you can see from the descriptors that they have different words to describe the same thing (Strategic\/Perspective) or Problem Solver\/Curiosity.\u00a0 In totality, they do paint a pretty accurate picture of me.<\/p>\n<blockquote><p><u>Gallup 5 strengths<\/u>: Relator(Connect deeply with few), Restorative(Problem solver), Achiever(Drive), Learner and Strategic (Perspective).<\/p>\n<p><u>VIA Institute<\/u>: Honesty, Perspective, Creativity, Love, Curiosity.<\/p>\n<p><u>Dependable Strengths<\/u>: Intuitive, Follow Through\/Ownership\/Accountability, Individualist, Energy\/Driven, Creativity.<\/p><\/blockquote>\n<h2>What do I do with my strength information?<\/h2>\n<p>Now, what? How does this information change your life?\u00a0 The more mindful we are about the strengths and who we are, the more we can place ourselves in jobs and situations where our greatest gifts can be offered.\u00a0 The theory is that using your gifts bring you happiness and fulfillment.<\/p>\n<p>My life is a good case study for this theory.\u00a0 My first job was in Finance.\u00a0 This job pulled on one of my least used character strength of prudence (<a href=\"http:\/\/www.viacharacter.org\/www\/Character-Strengths\/Prudence\"><strong>Prudence<\/strong><\/a>: Being careful about one&#8217;s choices; not taking undue risks; not saying or doing things that might later be regretted).\u00a0 While I was ok, I wasn\u2019t great at that work in comparison to my peers. It was through sheer perseverance that I kept it going and did well in the job. However, longer-term that work left me feeling dead inside. As a result, I went back to graduate school and studied marketing and strategic planning.\u00a0 I had several jobs in the highly competitive and dynamic high tech environment doing business planning, marketing, strategy.\u00a0 While I loved this work, and it drew upon my strengths the pace was unsustainable with my family priorities.\u00a0 \u00a0My next job was in a totally different field as a life coach.\u00a0 Coaching drew upon these same strengths, but offered me a flexible work schedule so I could spend time with my loved ones.\u00a0 I can truly say that coaching gives me fulfillment and meaning, and I think it IS because it draws on my strengths. It&#8217;s what I do well and enjoy doing.<\/p>\n<p>Not convinced?\u00a0 Well, how about having more time and energy?\u00a0 Strengths are things we do that come easily to us.\u00a0 It\u2019s the ultimate in the 80\/20 rule. Focus 20% of your life energy and get 80% impact.\u00a0 For example, coaching is effortless, fun, and brings me a lot of meaning.\u00a0 I never studied for any exam through my whole coaching class or studied much at all.\u00a0 So, are you willing to just try it for a month to see what happens?<\/p>\n<h2>Aren\u2019t there risks on just focusing on my strength?<\/h2>\n<p>Really, where\u2019s the data that the strength-only focus is valid. Well, according to a survey of 6000 leaders, Zenger and Folkman authors of \u201cThe Extraordinary Leader\u201d found that among the 6000 leaders they surveyed that 1\/3 of the leaders had fatal flaws, 1\/3 of them had no strong weaknesses or strengths, and 1\/3 that had one or two very strong strengths.\u00a0 \u00a0So, this approach works for 67% of us out there. However, if you have a fatal flaw focusing on just your strengths is not the best approach at work where performance metrics are operative.<\/p>\n<p>In the case that a leader has a fatal flaw, the authors suggest that a focus on strengths only is not a good strategy (Check out research by Zenger and Folkman authors of Extraordinary Leaders suggest that while it\u2019s true that \/ <a href=\"http:\/\/zengerfolkman.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2013\/05\/Developing-Strengths-or-Weaknesses-Article-Rev-02-23-09-2.pdf\">http:\/\/zengerfolkman.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2013\/05\/Developing-Strengths-or-Weaknesses-Article-Rev-02-23-09-2.pdf<\/a>). \u00a0How do you find your fatal flaw?\u00a0 According to Zenger and Folkman, it\u2019s hard for us to self-diagnose our fatal flaw. However, our peers and 360 reviews often can provide pointers to our fatal flaw. are a better solution.<\/p>\n<p>Gallup suggests that our weaknesses or fatal flaw is anything that get in the way of excellent performance and the goal should be to manage our weaknesses.\u00a0 The first step is to identify whether your weakness is a skills, knowledge, or talent weakness. Knowledge and skills are easier to address.\u00a0 Through a process of trial and error, you can calibrate if you can improve your weakness to be \u00a0\u201cgood enough\u201d at work. \u00a0Another strategy is to use your strengths to shore up your weaknesses. For example, let\u2019s say that one of your signature talents is Learning and your fatal flaw is talking in front of groups.\u00a0 You can combine your strength of Learning to overcome this fear of public presenting by studying videos or taking a class. The last strategy to try before finding another job is to work in partnership with someone who fills your gaps.\u00a0 If you don\u2019t like to communicate, hire a direct report that loves to do presentations.<\/p>\n<h2>How do I start focusing on my strengths?<\/h2>\n<p>First, you need to categorize which of your strengths you should focus on. The top 5 strengths whether they be VIA or Gallup are called your <em>signature strengths<\/em>.\u00a0 These are the strengths that most books say to focus on.\u00a0 They come to us effortlessly and can be easily and readily expressed.\u00a0 Are your life choices in alignment with these strengths?\u00a0 Is your career drawing upon these strengths?\u00a0 Do you raise your kids using these strengths? If not, what would happen if you started doing more work or changing your choices to be in alignment with these strengths.<\/p>\n<p>According to Gallup these themes do not change much over a lifetime. However, they caution that this does not preclude you from acquiring new knowledge and skills. In the Gallup book, they share a story of a news reporter with talents in Empathy and Command that uses her skills to ask tough questions with people she connected with, which then uses these same talents as a therapist in hospice.\u00a0 While this is true with Gallup, Fatima Doman suggests that your character strengths can change over time with effort. For example, in the video interview Fatima shares a story about her client who\u2019s bottom five character strengths (Perseverance) moved to her top 5 signature strengths over the course of a steady dedicated focus in this area.<\/p>\n<blockquote><p>\u00a0\u201cSignature themes are enduring.\u00a0 No matter how much you might yearn to transform yourself, these themes will prove resistant to change\u201d Pg 141, Now Discover Your Strengths.<\/p><\/blockquote>\n<p>The next set of strengths are what VIA calls Middle Strengths.\u00a0 These middle strengths offer ways to balance, support, or manage your signature strengths.\u00a0 For example, someone with a signature strength of perseverance may need to balance this with their middle strength of perspective to know \u201cwhen to say when\u201d.<\/p>\n<p>The last five strengths of the 24 character strengths are called your lesser strengths (versus weaknesses).\u00a0 Fatima emphasized during out interview that character strengths may not occur as naturally and may take more effort and energy to utilize.\u00a0 Check out more on signature, middle, and lesser strengths here:<\/p>\n<p><a href=\"https:\/\/www.viacharacter.org\/www\/Portals\/0\/via-pro-practitioners-guide.pdf\">https:\/\/www.viacharacter.org\/www\/Portals\/0\/via-pro-practitioners-guide.pdf<\/a><\/p>\n<h2>How do we know if we are over\/under using our strengths?<\/h2>\n<p>Once we know the strengths we should focus on the next step is figuring out if we are over or under using our strengths.\u00a0 For example, even though someone has a strength of humor, it maybe overused if they are using this during a funeral.\u00a0 Another overuse is when we go overboard with our strength due to our passion and can during stressful \u00a0times judge others for not meeting our same level of excitement.\u00a0 For example, our character strength of curiosity is overused goes to eccentricity. Another way we know when we are overusing a strength when it gets us into trouble in our relationships.\u00a0 VIA explains that our personality strengths have what researchers call a \u201cshadow-side. \u00a0\u00a0For more research on under use or overuse <a href=\"https:\/\/www.viacharacter.org\/www\/Research\/Overuse-and-Underuse-of-Strengths\">https:\/\/www.viacharacter.org\/www\/Research\/Overuse-and-Underuse-of-Strengths<\/a>.<\/p>\n<p>In \u201cAuthentic Strengths\u201d Fatima Doman describe under use of our strength occurs when we either don\u2019t use a character strength at the right level of expression or we neglect to use it in situations where it would be appropriate. \u00a0My sense is that under use strengths are these beautiful gifts that you had under the Christmas tree that you forgot about. Once you open them up, they are truly a present.\u00a0 The key is owning them and embracing these as gifts.<\/p>\n<h2>How can our strengths motivate us to achieve our goals?<\/h2>\n<p>Check out the video for more information on the Motivational Grid and Smart Goals.<\/p>\n<p><iframe loading=\"lazy\" title=\"What are your Via Character Strengths and Virtues?\" width=\"500\" height=\"281\" src=\"https:\/\/www.youtube.com\/embed\/8lZqWr_JUZs?start=2289&#038;feature=oembed\" frameborder=\"0\" allow=\"accelerometer; autoplay; clipboard-write; encrypted-media; gyroscope; picture-in-picture; web-share\" referrerpolicy=\"strict-origin-when-cross-origin\" allowfullscreen><\/iframe><\/p>\n<p>&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p>&nbsp;<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>How can a strengths-based approach to life can create more meaning and fulfillment? \u00a0What is my strength? CJ interviews Fatima Doman on her book \u201cAuthentic Strengths\u201d. 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