{"id":758,"date":"2011-03-24T07:52:04","date_gmt":"2011-03-24T14:52:04","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.fireitupwithcj.com\/dev\/\/new\/\/?p=758"},"modified":"2015-06-08T07:53:27","modified_gmt":"2015-06-08T14:53:27","slug":"mar-24-what-should-i-do-with-my-anger-irritation-annoyance-with-others","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.fireitupwithcj.com\/dev\/mar-24-what-should-i-do-with-my-anger-irritation-annoyance-with-others\/","title":{"rendered":"How to deal with anger?"},"content":{"rendered":"

\"Ragini-Headshot1\"<\/a>What is anger? Why does it come? What are typical ways people deal with anger? How to deal with anger in a healthy way? Learn some useful anger management tips.<\/p>\n

Interview: How to deal with Anger?\u00a0<\/strong><\/h2>\n
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  • Did you ever think that anger is really about saying “no” to “what is”?\u00a0 Are you rejecting life and saying “no” to the present and present? How can you move to saying “yes”?<\/li>\n
  • Anger shows us in many forms through passive aggressive behaviors, but we often don’t attribute our addictions or resentment as anger in disguise.\u00a0 How can we realize that you are feeling anger?<\/li>\n
  • Ragini offers her spiritually based 3 step program to addressing your anger head on.<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n

    \u00a05 Steps: Anger management tips<\/h2>\n

    1)\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0 Be aware that you are angry.<\/strong> Tune into your body and identify and name your feelings, that may include irritation, annoyance, blame.\u00a0 Describe the sensations you feel in your body- tightness in chest, not breathing, or breathing fast or high up in your chest, clench fingers\/fists\/jaw, rapid heart rate.\u00a0 These are likely your “signals” or yellow light that is telling you to beware… anger is arising.<\/p>\n

    2)\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0 Ask yourself a few questions: <\/strong><\/p>\n

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    • What expectations do I have that didn\u2019t get filled<\/strong>? What do I feel got violated my sense of self, my values (respect, fairness, justice, recognition, equality)?<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n
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      • Who did not meet your expectations (\u201cothers\u201d)?<\/strong> Often people get made at others, life (God) or themselves.<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n

        3)\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0 Reality check<\/strong>– Ask if the purpose of the \u201cothers\u201d life to meet your expectation<\/strong>? If you answer yes, then you may need to get some help to clarify your potential confusion.\u00a0 If no, you are on the\u00a0 right track.<\/p>\n

        4)\u00a0\u00a0 Adjusting your inner reality<\/strong><\/p>\n

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        • What may be some helpful self- talk to take you in a different direction<\/strong>? Here’s what Ragini says to herself.\u00a0 “I\u2019m walking my life path.\u00a0 They are walking their life path.\u00a0 Life isn\u2019t always going to give you what you want. I can let go of my anger and accept “what is”.<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n
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          • Forgive the\u00a0 yourself and others.<\/strong> Perhaps you can do a forgiveness meditation or say out loud, “I forgive you for being who you are and not meeting my expectation.\u00a0 I forgive myself for expecting you to be different than you are”.<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n
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            • Move to compassion and sympathetic consciousness<\/strong>:\u00a0 Get your zen hat on and say to youself,\u00a0 “We are all human.\u00a0 We can only be who we are”<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n

              5)\u00a0 Open to other ways for your expectations to be filled<\/strong>. Open to divine guidance to move in the way that is right for you and remember that you are not alone. Look for practical solutions and try to focus on what may fix the problem.\u00a0 Perhaps, it\u2019s a conversation with the \u201cother\u201d (see Fierce Conversations). Maybe, it\u2019s getting training or re-examining your expectation, or getting help to heal\u00a0 your hurt, sense of betrayal, or whatever value that we violated.<\/p>\n

              Ragini Michaels: Certified NLP trainer, Ericksonian Hypnosis for over 30 years<\/strong><\/h2>\n

              Ragini Elizabeth Michaels, author and certified Trainer of NLP and Ericksonian Hypnosis for over 30 years, consistently receives international acclaim for her elegant style and professional expertise. She is also recognized for Facticity Six Step Process (Paradox Management) – designed to accelerate your ability to surf the spiritual-psychological interface in daily life. Ragini offered The Facticity Wisdom School in Seattle (2000-2009), as well as Paradox Soirees for past students and Paradox Salons for interested beginners. Her work has taken her beyond America to Canada, India, England, Scotland, Italy, Spain, Germany, and Switzerland. She runs a successful private practice in Seattle, has published two books on the psychology of paradox, and eight meditation\/hypnosis CD\u2019s. Her third book – working title The Wisdom Of Your Discontent<\/em> – will be available next spring (Conari Press, 2011).<\/p>\n

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